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July 23, 2006Member Profile: BradinBlue
Brad tells us:
"I was born in Utah. I am the eldest of five siblings—three brothers and a sister. My dad was a plumbing contractor. At eight the economy in Utah tanked and he moved us to eastern Oregon, which is where his family lived. A landscape much like ‘Signal, WY’ it took some getting used to. My parents went through a nasty break up, and us kids were kinda left to fend for ourselves. They got back together, and as a junior in high school, we moved west—to a Portland, Oregon suburb.
I, not knowing any better, married right out of high school. I knew something was pulling at me, but I didn’t know what it was. We both had good jobs. I was taking classes at Portland State, working full time as a paramedic, and she had a great job for her young age. We had lots of friends, spent money like it was growing on trees, and the next logical step was to have kids. I knew this was a mistake. I dabbled and discovered what I was yearning for. I left her without explanation and immersed into the gay lifestyle. Two years of reckless living in the fast lane and virtually no contact with my family. I was 23 and it tore me to shreds. I decided I’d had enough. I tried finding a guy I could settle down with as I longed for the comfortable domestic stability that went along with being married, but to no avail. Didn’t think I could do it anyway given my angst about being a homo. At the urging of my best friend from high school, who knew nothing of the past two years, I applied and was hired by the Portland Police Bureau, where I still work. The Ennis in me kicked in big time, and after my bitter taste of the ‘lifestyle’, I went back to my wife. No way could a cop be a homo.
This lasted a couple of years, and then she left me. At 29 I met Steve. It’s a wonderful story, but too long for the bio, so go see my original post for the details. (Brad's Msgs 2278 & 2279)
We bought horse property 50 miles north of Portland, in Washington State. Over the years we had our ups and downs like all relationships. I did my cop thing and he ran a bar in the small town we live near. We were both volunteer fireman for several years. We got to know everyone in our small town. The bar and stresses of that are gone, and now he is a nurseryman and landscaper. We love our rural existence. We will be going on our nineteenth year in January. We both have huge families we are close to, so there’s always something going on especially during holidays. We have our family pooch Sadie. When we can get away, it’s the beaches and solitude of Hawaii, the huge open spaces of Montana where Steve’s mom has extensive property, or the vastness and beauty of Northeastern Oregon, where we ride ATV’s high in the breezy pine of the Blue Mountains. Then, of course, weekends on our little slice of paradise. No time for movies (I made an exception in January and February, though) or restaurants. We both love to cook, so other than vacation or holiday, we are home bodies—the acres of landscape needs us. We take good care of ourselves, and plan to live till’ were a hundred. Retirement plans when that time comes? More of the above without employers." Profile Questions
01. Currently Listening To?
Prior to January, all I listened to was get-no-where talk radio. Two hours commuting a day, plus many hours at work, it was talking heads. One of my rediscoveries post Brokeback Mountain
was my throwing away then endless circle that is talk radio, and the CNN, FOX, et. ALL crap. I have rediscovered and fallen in love with country-western music. Long list of favorite artists. Other music includes contemporary jazz and, believe it or not, mornings with coffee and light classical. Not a day goes by, that I don’t listen to the soundtrack/scores of ‘you know what’, with selected music from Teddy Thompson, Rufus Wainright, and few others thrown into the mix. A very close friend I have met through the forums has turned me on to Charlie Haden and Pat Metheny.
02. Currently reading?
I’m an avid reader, but I am not intellectual. I enjoy fiction and anything related to railroad history. I am reading Dean Koontz’, Life Expectancy
, John Gaertner’s North Bank Road-The Spokane, Portland and Seattle Railway
, and John Sanford’s Dead Watch
(surprisingly, gay themed).
03. Biggest Challenge?
Finding enough time in a day to do all that I want/need to do. Perhaps an excuse for not putting things away—tools and such? Steve would say no.
04. My perfect day?
A day on our farm, just Steve and I.
05. What's my indulgence?
Anything related to trains. I love em’. Unfortunately, I can’t indulge much in the summer, but when the rains come, you can catch me bellied up to my train simulator, or sitting at the depot admiring the parade.
06. What's my inspiration?
Easiest question to answer. His name is Steve.
07. Last major purchase?
Bought Steve a new Dodge Ram truck for Christmas. He likes his old red GMC (just like the one at the end of our movie, across from Ennis’ trailer), but you should have seen his jaw drop and the smile when he saw it. Course, I drive it more than he does as it uses regular unleaded and my car uses the expensive stuff, but I make sure if he needs it, it’s there for him.
08. First Job?
At 15, ‘pitched’ Hermiston watermelons. Shortest and worst job of my life. Found a liking to pumping gas, though. Did it through high school.
09. What do you know for sure?
I know that I am the luckiest man alive. I have a gem of a partner who, through his love for me and his ability to see a shining light buried deep in a troubled soul, rode it out. Also I know for sure, not one of my relatives (got many, many) on my side or Steve’s has any issue with us the way we are. And they are far from the enlightened left, but mainly very blue collar and some with neck the shade of scarlet.
10. Favorite Movie? Brokeback Mountain
. Prior, North by Northwest
11. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
‘Thanks for positively impacting so many lives.’ Then, I would say, “thanks for giving me the opportunity”.
12. What brought me to the forum?
Google search a week after seeing the movie for the first time. I lurked until the end of February. My first post here at Dave’s forum was my first time ever at coming to grips with and detailing my struggles. (Brad's Msg)
It allowed me to put together and make sense out of who I was and how my upbringing led me down the path I am today. It was a profound experience for me, as most of what is in that original post didn’t occur to me until I sat down and wrote it. It took days, lots of wine, and at times had me on the floor in gut-wrenching sobs. BBM was the therapy, and this forum, the follow up.
13. My favorite threads? The Impact
threads for serious discussion and sharing. Auntie’s Diner
for the light-hearted stuff. I have met so many wonderful people all over the site. Because of time constraints, I haven’t had the time to spend that I would like, but soon the rain will fall again…………
14. How many times have I watched BBM?
Stopped counting at twenty. From my second viewing in late January, every Friday night, I would leave work a couple of hours early and see it in a Vancouver, WA theater on the way home.
15. My favorite scene?
The ‘dozy embrace’. I have never seen anything so powerful and heart wrenching. It really depicts unencumbered love between two human beings. The way it should be, without the pilled on crap that, in the end, didn’t allow this fine moment to flourish a lifetime. Reading Ms. Proulx's explanation of this very special scene made it better.The LA Posse
Those LA guys sure love to party! Here is a snapshot taken by gnash
last week. (Sorry for the poor quality photo – it was taken with a camera phone – but I thought you'd like to see it any how.) This was from a fun evening they had at the El Coyote Restaurant. Sunspot
had been to the Hollywood Museum to see the BBM shirts that afternoon and then WLAGuy
joined them for dinner. Mary
had this to say about it: "The display was great - the shirts were hung just as they were on the closet door at the end of the film with the BBM postcard hung next to them. The display also had a number of postcards (including the 'you bet' one written by Ennis) and other props posters and photos."
Mary, Sunspot, WLAGuy and SydneyHeath in the News
From PR Inside: "HEATH LEDGER and MICHELLE WILLIAMS have purchased a legendary home in the Hollywood Hills that is considered by many to be a modern architectural masterpiece. The $2.3 million (£1.3 million) home was once owned by talk show host ELLEN DeGENERES and has been dubbed the 'Treehouse'. It has sweeping views and celebrity neighbours including KIRSTEN DUNST and MATTHEW McCONAUGHEY.
The couple, who have a nine-month-old daughter, MATILDA, currently live in a Brooklyn, New York town house and recently sold their beach front home in Sydney, Australia because the paparazzi could see into the front of the glass structure."PR InsideRecognize this?Can't you just see those sheep being herded through this valley? (Canyon Creek, Alberta)CalgoryActor
has been out and about in Alberta's BBM filming locations again, just so we can enjoy his wonderful photos. This one took a little doing; in fact it was downright dangerous! He risked life and limb on a sharp incline that leads to a very sharp drop-off that he says, "Would without a doubt, kill you if you fell off, so I was kind of nervous taking the shot."
If you don't recognize the locale, just check your dvd (or www.findingbrokeback.com
), and compare it to the shot at Chapter 2 at 09:55.
We're glad you made it back in one piece, CalgoryActor
. . . oh and thanks for this perfect shot!! Thread of the Day – The Birthday Thread
Birthdays – Ya gotta love 'em or at least share them with all of us! If you want to join in the fun just PM McNell1120 (Nellie) and give your screen name and month-day of your birthday. It will then be added to the thread's list.
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Of course, the whole idea is to PM our Forum buddies with a birthday greeting or join in the fun on the Birthday Thread where all kinds of cyber flowers, cakes and whatever else await.July Birthdays
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29 Phrag3 Photocap of the Dayby iwishiknew
First zebra: You know I ain't striped.
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