Bestselling Author
Don't fall
in love
The Secret Lives of Two Gay Soldiers Hiding in Plain Sight
The tumultuous story of two gay soldiers fighting for love against all odds and forging a friendship to take on the torturous years of Don't Ask Don't Tell.
Born on the eve of Stonewall, their lives tell the story of the liberation of our military and the entire LGBT equality movement, through their eyes.
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The "compromise" was designed to loosen their shackles, but Don't Fall in Love draws back the curtain on how it made life so much worse — forcing brutal compromises and pitting their life's calling against happiness with the men they loved.ā
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Coming fall 2026
GLAAD Media Award
My Story
I wrote the New York Times bestsellers Columbine and Parkland. This fall (2026), HarperCollins will publish my gay soldiers book, which I’ve been working on for 26 years. (11 concurrently with the other books, shadowing Army buddies ‘Brett’ and ‘Drake’ the whole time.) It’s the biggest project I’ll undertake in my life.
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Don't Fall in Love is the tumultuous story of two active duty combat arms soldiers fighting for love and happiness against all odds. They served 23 years and deployed to three wars in hiding — before, during, and after Don't Ask, Don't Tell. They're courageous, insightful and wickedly funny, and it's been one hell of a ride.*ā
āColumbine won several major awards, including the Edgar, Goodreads Choice Award, and Barnes & Noble Discover Award, and made 2 dozen Best of 2009 lists. It made LA Times' list of the 30 best nonfiction books of the last 30 years, and Slate's list of the best books of the last quarter century. It has been translated into nine languages, and named to a few dozen Best True Crime Books of All Time lists.
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I've worked on several TV project and sold one pilot to NBCUniversal, earning my WGA card. On the media side, I've written for New York Times, Vanity Fair, Atlantic, London Times, Politico, Guardian, Washington Post, New Republic, BuzzFeed, etc., and appeared on most of the major networks in the US, and across Europe, Asia, Australia and South America. I live in Chicago, where I'm uncle to 11 cool humans and 1 adorable corgi, Bobby Sneakers.
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* The gay soldiers book began as a magazine story in June 2000, that won the GLAAD Media Award for best online story of the year. To protect them from discharge, we named them Brett and Drake then and disclosed it in they story. They were never discovered. They'll reveal their identities in the book this fall.ā
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My Latest
New Edition 2024
TV
Dave has been a frequent analyst about Columbine, Parkland, school shootings, gays and soldiers on Today, NBC Nightly News, PBS Newshour, Nightline, Morning Edition, CBS This Morning, CBS Sunday Morning, CBSN, Anderson Cooper 360, Rachel Maddow, All In With Chris Hayes, Katie, Talk of the Nation, Hannity, and numerous documentaries including CNN, NatGeo, Showtime and The Nineties.
![Please remember the Newtown families. And then channel your anger.
My NY Times essay is linked in my bio. I argue that your anger is actually changing the game in gun politics. (And Iāll be discussing on Chris Hayesā MSNBC show tonight.)
Meanwhile, some have asked to see the original version of the essay. I canāt publish it all mixed together, but here are a few bits from the editing room floor, starting with my conclusion:
There are so many ways we can save our children. Safety resonates with gun owners because itās a core value. Owners actually founded an organization in 1871 dedicated to safety and marksmanship. They named it the National Rifle Association. It went rogue in the 1970s, pitting gun owners against controllers. Owners finally returned to their safety roots this summer, and a new alliance is our best hope.
Anger can be powerāwhen directed at the real villains. So letās double pressure on spineless politicians, and extend our hand to surprising new allies. Because gun owners love their children, too.
--- [My version of the 1st person paragraph with my history and personal feelings]:
Until the Parkland uprising, I was a doubter, too. When I published Columbine, the body count was escalating, and I could see no way out. Sandy Hook crushed my spirit, alsoāand five years later, I was still skeptical of the fledgling safety movement. But then I spent a year with the Parkland kids, watching them team with Giffords and Everytown, supercharging their efforts with rocket fuel. Watts told me her army tripled from 2 million to 6 that year, vaulting past the NRA.
--- [Other outtakes I liked.]
{The new gun safety movementā¦} And theyāve driven those ideas home:Ā Safe schools, safe streets, safe kids.
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The game changed so gradually and so far below the political surface that the public has gone largely unaware. And the media, focused exclusively on the 30-year blockade of gun legislation in Congress, has kept beating the hopeless-narrative drum. False narrative. It made sense ten years ago, but since then, a sea change quietly upended the rules of gun politics ā¦
Our kids donāt have to die.
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